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Christmas just ain’t Christmas without the one you love…

This is sooooo true! Look closely at the following picture and you’ll see 4 very happy people celebrating Christmas together. In 4 days, this picture will be exactly 1 year old. Two of the people are now deployed to the nether regions of the world and the other two will be celebrating Christmas alone (assuming you don’t count 6 kids, 2 dogs, a cat and a hermit crab between them).

Merry Christmas June! Merry Christmas Ward!
Merry Christmas Debbie, my love! I am missing you very much.

We Miss You A Merry Christmas

We Miss You A Merry Christmas

Not the sharpest knife in the drawer…

As you can see from the picture, we have a cat and a dog. Oliver (the cat) runs the house and is in charge of everything except for feeding himself and cleaning his litter box. Other than that, he owns it. Max (the dog) is just happy to be on the planet. If you have ever read a Garfield cartoon and saw Odie, you are up to speed on Max. At our current house, we don’t have a fenced-in yard so every morning and every night, I take Max for walks after he has eaten. Lately, we’ve been down in the lower 20′s overnight so our walks have become a bit faster but this story is about two very recent walks in which I nearly pee’d my pants while walking my dog. I’m certain the stories were much funnier in person than I will be able to make them but I really got a kick out of these walks.

Last Thursday night, I was walking Max and as we’re heading back to the house, he decides to start sniffing around in one of the storm drains when out of nowhere he gets whacked in the side of the head by a stiff right hook from something long, dark and mysterious. It happened so fast, I almost thought I had imagined it but the way Max jumped up into the air, I knew it was real. I couldn’t see it at first but quickly I realized that a fairly large cat must have decided to curl up on the shelf in the storm drain and Max had disturbed its rest. As soon as it had crushed my dogs cranium, it took off out of the drain and ran into the yard beside us. There was a large green telephone switch about 10 feet off of the street and the cat must have hidden behind it. When Max regained his senses, he took off after the cat at which point, the cat jumped up onto the switch box (about 2 1/2 feet high) and started watching. For FIVE FULL MINUTES, my stupid dog ran all over the place trying to find this cat, never once suspecting that it might have jumped onto the switch box. At first, I tried to pull him away but it became funnier and funnier as time went on. He would run to the drain and sniff around, then run to the corner of the house then between the two houses, then back to the drain. The whole time, this cat is just looking at me. You could tell he was just dying to ask if I had to keep the dog on the lease for his own safety. Finally, my eyes crying and the water on my face freezing cold, I had to drag him two houses before he would forget about the cat.

The very next morning, it’s 22 degrees out and Max and are walking past a house that obviously has not turned off their in-ground sprinkler system. I couldn’t believe the things actually worked but they did and sure enough, there are big patches of ice on the road and in their driveway. I was walking along, mumbling under my breath about the idiots when I notice that Max is running with all of his might but not going anywhere. The sprinkler had soaked the concrete in front of another storm drain and the ice and the angle of the concrete were causing my poor dog to skid into the drain. He must have been doing about 65 or 70 when I noticed and gave him a gentle tug. His feet hit solid asphalt and he traveled 10 feet in less than half a second. I wanted to help him because he looked so frightened but I was doubled over laughing so hard. I tried to pet him but I think this just aggravated him and he ignored me for the rest of the walk.

See, I told you it wouldn’t sound as funny as it actually was but I won’t forget those two walks for a very long time.

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Happy anniversary baby, got you on my mind…

18 years. Can you believe it? It’s been a tough journey but I know that it has just made us stronger together. I can’t wait to see what the next 18 have to bring us. I pray for you each and every day and know that God will return you safe and sound to me. And remember:

It takes one good well deep and everflowing
It takes one good well to draw from night and day
Pure and fine it’s yours and mine and it’s always enough
We got one good well overflowing with everlasting love

I love you,
Goodnight.

Is this really a religious issue?

Okay, so lately I’ve had a lot of friends talking about Obama and the abortion issue. As a Catholic, this issue is important to me and I know that the US Conference of Catholic Bishops have made it the number 1 priority for them. I know that many priests, such as this one in South Carolina are taking this issue into the parish and working it hard but it also seems like everyone I talk to seems to think this issue BELONGS to the religious. I just don’t get that!

Look, 35 years ago a law was implemented that made abortion illegal. Lots of people fought against the law but it passed anyway. Can any of us really remember what it was like in 1973? You remember, dads used to sit in the waiting room of the hospital smoking cigarettes and the doctor would come out and tell him whether it was a boy or a girl. We had nowhere near the medical science we have now. We literally have electron microscope video of cells splitting now. We can actually see the sperm fertilize the egg. We KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that a human life has started at that moment. Those are the facts and they are indisputable. This information was not concrete in the early 70′s. Oh, doctor’s knew this but they couldn’t show the jury pictures like they can today. Today, no one can say “we just don’t know when life begins”. Scientific proof shows that life begins at conception. An independent life form is living within the mother’s womb. And our laws, founded on inconclusive evidence, allow this independent life form to be murdered and for the murderer to be protected from prosecution. If you don’t believe it, watch the following video clip:

Of course, this is a priest telling the story so I am not really helping my cause of proving this is just as much a secular issue as it is a religious one, but look at the size of the fetus doll in his hands. Only 18 weeks after conception, just over 3 months!!! This is murder of the innocents and our new President-Elect is waiting to sign a bill that will allow this procedure, theoretically, to be performed on any and every baby from conception up to and including delivery! Please, please, please, pray and ACT to keep FOCA and any other pro-abortion bill from passing.

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Simon Cowell’s greatest contribution to the world…

So, the story goes that during one season of European Idol (from which American Idol was copied), four singers tried out and were not deemed good enough as solo acts. Simon Cowell contacted them individually and formed the group Il Divo. I have one of their albums and they are a very interesting group. They are from 4 different countries, speak 4 different primary languages and all sing beautifully. Watch the following video and tell me if you don’t agree…

8-(…

Every school day, I spend a little time in our Adoration Chapel and I write a prayer that I read at the end of the school day to a group of parents who meet in the parking lot. If I have mentioned that before I’m sorry but yesterday as I walked out and began talking to them, I told them that my original prayer began “Dear Mary, I am so angry with your Son right now…” At that point, I put my pen down and tried to reason out why I was mad; just what it was that caused me to be not disappointed, but angry.

It dawned on me that I was really just counting on taking the easy way out. I’ve always been pro-life but I have never been as outspoken as I have been this year. There are many reasons for it and the dichotomy of the two candidates certainly helped. But the real reason is that I was kind of hoping that we could elect someone who would fight the fight for me and I could go back to my blissfully ignorant little life. Now I understand that I truly need to fight for pro-life issues because they are worth fighting for, not because they’re a good reason to vote for my candidate. I need to educate myself (and my friends) on how to fight within the political process and I don’t mean just marching down Pennsylvania Avenue once a year.

They have rights too.

We have much to be encouraged about but there is still much to do. FOCA must be stopped and we need to make sure that no ‘consented euthanasia’ laws get placed on the books (yes, it is coming). Finally, I realize that there is another Presidential election in 4 years and everyone is searching for the next Republican to get behind but don’t forget that in 2 years, we’ll have another round of Senate elections and that will be the next chance to impact people who will confirm our Supreme Court Justices.

One last opportunity…

So I began thinking about the ‘Undecided Voter Quiz’ that I gave a few days ago and it dawned on me (since I work in an educational environment) that many people learn in many different ways. Also, some people are so engrossed in their jobs that you can only discuss things with them in the terminology they use day in and day out. So I would like to offer some helpful terminology that will make things easier for you if you happen to run across one or more of these people before the election tomorrow…

As a foundational principal I submit that the Right-To-Life issue is the single most important and divisive one facing our voters. I base this conclusion on the simple premise that ALL of the other issues are theoretical in nature. Experts can be found everywhere to conclude that:

  • Both candidates have offered economic packages that may or may not eliminate the current economic crisis.
  • Both candidates have offered medical care changes that may or may not improve health care in this country (a country by the way, with the best health care system in the world).
  • Both candidates have offered military strategies that may or may not bring the war in Iraq and Afghanistan to a peaceful conclusion.
  • Both candidates have offered plans regarding illegal immigrants that may or may not bring this issue to an acceptable conclusion.
  • And finally, both candidates have shown character (and character flaws) that may or may not make them the right leader for this country at this time.

But the one issue upon which everyone has to agree is that the opinion of the two candidates about right-to-life and ‘when life begins’ is so fundamentally different that it can easily be used to separate the two candidates. So without further ado, I would like to present my ways of helping people from different walks of life determine which Presidential candidate to vote for.

If you have someone who is a technology savant; a programmer, project manager, web designer OR someone who is just highly organized and needs things laid out in an orderly fashion, I give you the decision flowchart:


If you are speaking with someone who would like to take a reasoned approach and to deduce who they should vote for using Deductive Logic, try this:

All humans, once conceived have a right to life.
–You must vote for John McCain.

Embryos do not become a human (and thus do not have rights) until they are fully delivered from the mothers’ womb and the umbilical cord is cut.
–You should vote for Barack Obama.

If you are speaking with a farmer, you might try this approach:
You have planted enough seed to harvest about 16,000 [insert item here] each day but someone comes along each day and cuts down about 4,000 of them.
John McCain wants to stop them from being able to cut any down but Barack Obama wants to make it easier for them to cut down even more.

If you are speaking with a business person, an economist or a banker, this might work:
You were given a loan to open a store and begin selling widgets.
Your business model showed that you have the ability to make and sell about 16,000 widgets each day. At this level, you are able to meet all of your manufacturing costs and still make a modest profit for yourself.
Recently, you have begun losing about 4,000 widgets per day to theft and can no longer meet your bills or pay back your loan.
John McCain wants to stop the thieves from getting any of your widgets.
Barack Obama wants to relax the restrictions on the thieves and allow them to take as many from you as they would like.

If you are speaking with a lawyer or someone in the law enforcement arena, they might respond to:
The laws of the United States of America state that the murder of an innocent human is illegal in all instances.
Today, we have documented scientific proof that a human becomes an autonomous organism immediately following conception.
John McCain would ask the Supreme Court Justices to review this countries abortion laws in light of scientific advances made since its inception.
Barack Obama would immediately sign into law a bill that relaxes virtually all restrictions upon abortion.

And Finally, what about the person who just wants to know the truth about this situation:
There are just under 12,000 children born in the United States of America each day.
There are between 3,000 and 5,000 children aborted in the United States of America each day (because of the laws in place, an accurate count is impossible).
If the Freedom of Choice Act is signed into law, the conservative estimate is that about 7,000 children will be aborted each day; some will only be a day or two away from a normal, natural full-term birth!
John McCain will veto the Freedom of Choice Act if he is presented with it and will ask the Supreme Court to review Roe v. Wade and other Pro-Choice laws that appear to be in opposition to the foundational principles set forth in the Declaration of Independence.
Barack Obama will sign the Freedom of Choice Act if he is presented with it and would legitimize as many abortions as possible.

Does this mean I’m a temporary king?

Well, I knew it would have to happen someday. About 25 years ago, I had an enormous amount of work done in my mouth to repair years of the ‘old silver fillings’ that I had acquired. The dentist told me that in about 10-12 years I would need to get a few crowns because of the damage I had done to my teeth. Last week I went in for my normal semi-annual cleaning and was told that I indeed finally needed to get my first crown and today was my lucky day.

First, let me tell you I am a dental wimp! Just the sound of that high-speed drill makes my teeth start aching and I absolutely hate the feel of the cold water against my teeth. So the thought of spending an hour and a half in the dental chair while he grinds one of my teeth down to a stump was not a pleasant one. After explaining to the nurse and dentist at least sixteen times how much I hated them, I took out my iPod, cranked up Rich Mullins as loud as he would go and told the nurse to tap me on the head if they needed to get my attention.

If you’ve never gotten a crown before (thank God I didn’t need to get the root canal), they literally grind your tooth down to a weird sort of square shape. I asked the dentist if he’d ever seen ‘Close Encounters of the Third Kind’ because that’s what my tooth felt like when he was done. I was thrilled by the effectiveness of the pain killers though and the only time the drill bothered me was when he put this huge honkin’, massive bit on the end of his drill and slooooowwwwlllyyyy roughed up the surface of the tooth. This bit felt like I was driving my car down a gravel road with no tires. And the sound was HORRIBLE!

But then they did one of the coolest things I’ve ever seen. They dropped this waxy looking stuff into the mold they had taken of my teeth earlier and had me bite down on it. 3 minutes later, my temporary crown was ready to be trimmed down and polished. It was really neat the way the waxy material formed and hardened in the little tray in my mouth. (hey, it’s the small things in life that bring me joy).

Then they had to super-glue it to the stump in my mouth but for the most part that went off without a hitch. It was kinda funny the way the dentist told me “Make sure, if it falls out, you call right away and get it back in here immediately so I can glue it back on.” Like it was the wing of his favorite model and he was going to be very protective of it. I thought Doc, the odds are if the stupid thing falls out, it’s going to be a couple of days before I get it back and by then I probably won’t want it glued back into my mouth. But that’s probably too much information for most of you…

Anyway, in two weeks I get my permanent crown and then I’ll be a permanent king. Bwah hah hah!

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Prayer and Fasting against FOCA…

I’ve not discussed this with you guys before but I am a moderator for an afternoon prayer group that we call the “Parking Lot Prayer Group” at our school. Every school day, I spend a little time in the adoration chapel writing a prayer and then, about 15 minutes before school ends, I invite the parents in the parking lot to stand and pray together. We have jar that we put prayer intentions into and about 25-45 people on average who attend. Anyway, last week one of the parents in the group suggested that we have a day of fasting and prayer in opposition to the Freedom of Choice Act and for the Pro-Life movement. I was able to receive approval for this and we will be holding this special day tomorrow, Wednesday October 29, 2008. We have several events planned including two complete Pro-Life rosaries that will be prayed at 10 AM and 2 PM.

I’m sure that most of you are not in the Woodbridge, VA area but I would invite any of you to participate by offering up a day of fasting and prayer on your own. If you have never fasted in prayer before, let me just say it is one of the most inspiring forms of prayer that I have ever found. The mortification of the body is a special form of prayer that most of the Old Testament prophets, and Jesus Himself used to gain control over evil spirits and show a special form of love to God the Father.

WOW…

All I can say is WOW! Our priest spoke this weekend about right to life issues and how Catholics are mandated by their claim to be a Catholic to vote for life. He spoke of several things, not just Roe v. Wade and the Freedom of Choice Act but he talked about how we need to stop crisis pregnancy at the source and how we have to do everything in our power to help those in crisis pregnancy situations.

His arguments were very compelling. He spoke about how some laws were inherently bad and we recognized them as such. So, slavery was bad and no reasonably intelligent person would agree today that ‘a person should be allowed to choose whether or not they should own slaves’. He spoke that way in regards to spousal abuse also, so that no reasonably intelligent person would agree that ‘a person should be allowed to choose whether or not they can beat their spouse’. Yet we are willing to engage this same type of conversation about the murder of unborn babies. Like me, he followed the abortion argument to it’s logical conclusion (and then some) which is to say “Where do we stop?” There are some countries that are already arguing for and promoting euthanasia as a means of allowing people to die with ‘dignity’. He asked, “why stop there?”; what about the infirmed?, those born with debilitating diseases?, teenagers that we just can’t control? (he got a chuckle for saying this but I’m not sure that was his intention). One more statement that he made was important I think. He said (to the effect of) that the country is responsible for making laws but it is up to the Church to be a moral compass for the country. People didn’t just start believing slavery was bad, the moral climate of the country got to the point where everyone, not just those deeply involved with their church, began to realize that slavery was bad because all men are created equal. Many people died bringing this to fruition and there are still people out there who believe they are better than others strictly because of their race but that is certainly not the pervasive feeling throughout the country.

I believe that abortion is the same way; most people understand that murder is bad but they allow themselves to be bullied into believing that the unborn are somehow not human. Because they do not fall into the ‘viable’ category they are somehow not human yet if you wait a little while, would they somehow be something else? If you apply the scientific process what would you conclude? Every single time in human history when a human egg and a human sperm have united, they have produced a human child. Not 10%, not 50%, not 99.99999%, but 100% of the time. So the argument moves to ‘when does the sperm and the egg become a child?’ This is the argument I like the most because not too long ago, we did not have any real evidence. Today however we know that immediately after the sperm and the egg unite, the new life begins; the cells start splitting and (though it may not yet look like it) little Tommy or little Janey is on the way.

So what exactly are we left with in this whole Pro-Life argument? I’ll tell you. We are left with those who have the courage to stand up for what is right and have an open, honest debate with the pro-choice people. It’s not our job to try and understand what the other side is saying. It is not our job to agree that sometimes, just maybe sometimes, there is a valid reason for aborting a baby. It is our job to present a reasoned, well thought out argument for the sanctity of all life not matter what state it is in.

What about the safety of the mother? Come on Hobbit, you have to agree that if the doctor says the mother will die delivering this baby, we should be able to abort the baby. NO I DON’T! I cannot give life to anything therefore I should not be willing to take life from anything either. One of the arguments in this case is that “we cannot be sure that the sperm and egg are a life”. If we cannot be sure it is a life, it stands to reason that we cannot be sure it is NOT a life. Which side makes more sense, allowing it to grow and see if it becomes a life or killing it, ensuring that we will never know?

So what can you do? First and foremost, you need to educate yourself on the issue so that you can make an informed case for life. Secondly, you need to vote pro-life. This is not me speaking to you, this is Pope John Paul II speaking in Evangelium Vitae that the single most fundamental right of the human being is the right to life and that no government or power be allowed to create any law which would subvert that right. All Catholics must and all Christians should be compelled to vote for the candidate who will uphold the right to life. This has nothing to do with what you think is correct or, more importantly, what your conscience is telling you; this has to do with fundamental truths and, perhaps, the reason why we are Catholics in the first place. Sometimes, it is important for us to rely on those whose job it is to educate us in our morality. In this case, it is Pope John Paul II; a man who almost all religious leaders considered to be fundamentally grounded in the gospel of Jesus Christ! He is telling us that this one subject is more important than anything else to mankind. It is THE foundational principal upon which all other moral decisions depend! Vote pro-life and then follow up to ensure that your candidates are keeping their word.